Ever had the experience where you counsel someone and get absolutely berated by them for your troubles?

Shelling out teaching, even to your friends or family, has its problems as some people won’t appreciate your efforts in correcting them.

Wisdom continues, after imploring invited guests to her house to “forsake foolishness and live, and go in the way of understanding, (v. 6)” with a warning to wisely give out instruction.


7 “He who corrects a scoffer gets shame for himself, and he who rebukes a wicked man only harms himself. 8 Do not correct a scoffer, lest he hate you; rebuke a wise man, and he will love you.”



How easy it is to fall into the trap of thinking everyone will appreciate our godly advice! Say you can’t stand seeing someone make unwise and sinful decisions again and again, and you rebuke them. They then slam you for interfering in their lives and for thinking that you know best. The scoffer will scoff at your well-intentioned instruction. They then will also have you as a close target to shame and harass. Why is this? Why do people hate being told to clean up their act? It’s probably because an unwise person always thinks they are right about their lifestyle, besides, it’s enjoyable!

Verse 8 says the scoffer might even hate you for your efforts, but a wise man will be thankful and love you if you rebuke him. I don’t know about you, but I dislike being told I’m wrong! There seems to be something ingrained in us that hates instruction, and wisdom is going against that grain. Wisdom says, learn more, you don’t know everything yet.

Foolishness screams, I know everything so leave me alone!

A wise man will want to get wiser, and so it follows that he will appreciate some pointers about his actions that he was blind to. After all, everyone has pitfalls in their understanding. Wisdom continues…


9 Give instruction to a wise man, and he will be still wiser; Teach a just man, and he will increase in learning.”


Listening to that wiser or more observant friend, parent, or spouse will be a blessing. Be that wise person who responds with thankfulness and love, instead of anger and arrogance. It will be a step in the wiser direction. Amen.


Thoughts or questions? Write them down in the comment section below!


Note: All scripture is taken from Biblestudytools.com and is the New King James Version. I am using a commentary by John Kitchen for help with difficult concepts and words.


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